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Sexual Fantasies, Learning to Celebrate What Turns me On
Sexual fantasies play an essential role in my sexual expression. But accepting and celebrating my desires hasn't always been easy.
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Foreplay, Why Words Matter When We Talk About Sex
The word foreplay has been rattling around in my noggin. I have a lot of thoughts about how the word limits how we think about sex.
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Unspoken Contracts, A Beyond #fetchat Musing on What Goes Unsaid
September 30th's #fetchat was about D/s power exchange contracts. And I started thinking about all the unspoken contracts that ruin great sex.
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Sex Talk, A Musing on Open Communication in Relationships
Quarantine has inspired introspection and open communication at home. It's led to earth-shattering intimacy with my spouse.
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The Good Kind of Pain, A Beyond Fetchat Musing
Spankings are about the good kind of sting. But it took me time to untangle my relationship with pain and build a healthy solo kink practice.
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Budgeting Time for kink, A Beyond fetchat Musing
Last week on #fetchat we talked about kink on a budget. For Beyond fetchat I want to talk about another resource that's important to budget: Time
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Kink and Disability, A Beyond #fetchat Musing
The current Beyond #fetchat topic is disability and kink. Disability. Whew. I have a complicated relationship with that word. And when sex, especially kink, is added to the equation, complicated turns to Byzantine.
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The Best Sexual You, Sex and Magic Numbers
Everywhere there's talk about how to the best you in the new year, including how much sex makes a relationship healthy. Guess what? There's no magic number.
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Masturbation and Intimacy, A Musing about Relationships
A musing about masturbation and intimacy, and how self-love can serve as a way to achieve sexual intimacy with yourself and your partner(s).
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A Practice of Self-Love & Kindness
On Tuesday I watched myself have an orgasm. I've been processing the experience for the past few days. Seeing myself with compassion and care has always been a challenge. But learning how to adopt a kinder gaze takes practice.
