Content: Anxiety, Discussion of Coping Tools, Video reading of erotica, Tentacles.
Hello, My Beauties. Well, here we are. The world is a scary place, and it’s crucial to find ways to stay grounded amid the chaos. It’s a tall order when anxiety is driving the struggle bus.
One way I’m helping myself (and other folks) is by doing live-streams twice a day. I pop up on Twitter (@annestaggwrites) at noon every day and Instagram (@annestaggwrites) at 4 pm, eastern standard time offering sex talk, self-care, and smut.
Check out a recording of today’s live-stream:
The exercise I discussed is one I use (and have taught others to use) to help ground myself when anxiety is trying to take over and run the show. It’s a mindfulness exercise I call Bubble Popping.
Gentle Reminder: This exercise is just a suggestion of a tool and isn’t meant to take the place of individual mental health treatment. If you’re struggling with anxiety, it’s, please consider consulting with a professional therapist/counselor/psychologist. Consider starting the conversation with your physician if you’re unsure how to move forward. There are some excellent online services available, like Betterhelp.comand TalkSpace.com.
Our emotions and thoughts are often set off by events and experiences we have in our day-to-day lives, memories of activities and experiences, or anticipation of activities and experiences
Mindfulness is about allowing yourself to be in the present moment, acknowledge experience/events, thoughts, and feelings without judgment, rejection, or attachment.
Observing without judgment.
Sometimes an experience/event leads to a thought or a feeling so strong that we have a hard time seeing past them and seeing the moment and ourselves clearly. Giving yourself permission to allowing those things to pass is a powerful tool. One that can allow you to live more fully in the present.
One way to deal with experience, event, thought, or emotion obstructing you from living the moment is to observe without judgment or rejection. And allow those thoughts and feelings to pass without judgment.
Find a quiet space.
Get comfortable sitting up or lying down, preferably in a place without a lot of interruptions. Set a timer on your phone for 5 minutes.
Focus your eyes on a spot on the floor in front of you, a spot on a wall or ceiling, or close your eyes, whichever works for you. Relax your jaw. Let your mouth fall open just a little bit, it may make you yawn, that’s okay.
Take 3 deep breaths, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth. Invite the thought or feeling that is stuck come into your mind.
When the thought or feeling comes – imagine a soap bubble around it.
Once you have put the thought or feeling in a soap bubble, allow it to pop. You can imagine yourself popping it, or you can just let it disappear like soap bubbles do when they pop on their own.
Once you have popped the thought or feeling, take a deep breath, and refocus your mind. If the thought or feeling comes back, repeat steps 8 and 9 again. Keep popping the thought or feeling until that feeling of being stuck has passed or until your timer goes off.
Take three deep breaths, breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Re-engage with your day.
Even if the thought or feeling has not disappeared entirely, you have given yourself permission to experience that feeling or thought without holding on it. Sometimes it takes practice. And that’s okay. It’s never a waste to spend time caring for yourself.
Be well, be wonderful, and above all be you,